It can be tough for new moms to lose weight after having a baby, but when Tori Spelling gave birth to daughter Stella on June 9, she had the added pressure of having to watch fellow celebrities snap right back into shape. “I would look at pictures of myself and compare them to Jessica Alba, who had her baby two days before me,” Tori, 35, tells In Touch. “I’d see photos of her two months after and go, ‘Look at her!’ ” But rather than give up, Tori says she developed a healthier attitude, passing on fad diets and hot Hollywood trainers and enlisting the help of her husband of two-and-a-half years, Dean McDermott, their 19-month-old son, Liam, and Stella. Together, they cook healthy meals and stay as active as possible. “The best way to lose weight is to make it a family affair,” she explains. “It has changed my life.” “I’m embracing the fact that it’s a struggle for me to drop the pounds,” Tori reveals. “It’s easier now because I’m not as focused on it.” Her advice to other moms trying to lose weight? “Take your time,” says Tori, with Stella. “If you get obsessed, you’ll miss out on great moments with your children.”

Pick up this week’s issue of In Touch Weekly to read Tori’s exclusive interview about how she is losing the baby weight!