90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way star Brandan De Nucciõ might be head over heels for girlfriend Mary De Nucciõ (née Rosa), but insecurities are set to threaten the couple as they start to build their lives together. Throughout the spinoff, fans will watch their relationship unfold as Brandan headed to the Philippines to start a new life with Mary.
How Did 90 Day Fiance’s Brandan and Mary Meet?
Brandan has been dating Mary virtually for over two years and planned to visit his online girlfriend for the first time in her native country the Philippines.
“Mary wants to know what I’m doing. She’s very clingy,” Brandan explained during his season 5 debut of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way, in a teaser shared by the network in July 2023. “I really like that because I’m kind of the same way. We have similar past histories.”
The TLC personality revealed both of them had been cheated on in the past by their romantic partners, contributing to their shared jealousy and insecurity issues.
It’s clear Brandan’s family has issues with their relationship as Mary has forbidden Brandan from visiting his mother’s house due to her female roommates.
“Mary doesn’t want me over there with any of them,” Brandan told producers. “I feel like I’m being pulled from my siblings and my mom from one side, and pulled from Mary on the other. I don’t like that. I wish they got along.”
While Brandan assured his mom and sister that things would change once they were in person together, his mom wasn’t so convinced.
“You guys have built a foundation on jealousy and distrust, it’s pretty rocky,” his mom, Angela Stiggins, told him in another scene. “You can’t see me ‘cause I live in a house full of females, you can’t spend time with your siblings because she is a female and she has friends possibly, that might come over.”
What Challenges Have Brandan and Mary Faced on ’90 Day Fiance’?
Brandan arrived in the Philippines to meet Mary for the first time in the July 24 episode. They shared a kiss despite Mary’s grandfather’s strict rules that Brandan ask him for permission before having physical contact with Mary. This came back to bite Brandan in the August 2 episode when he admitted what he had done to Mary’s grandfather. He was angry that Brandan broke the rules, and though he ultimately gave the couple permission to kiss, he said they needed to start planning a wedding.
Brandan and Mary have also experienced some awkwardness over Mary’s hesitation to be intimate. While Brandan wanted to have sex on their first night together, Mary admitted she didn’t feel ready. Brandan didn’t want to pressure her, but Mary also chose not to tell him that her grandparents wanted them to wait until marriage.
“I know we were having a lot of intimacy on the phone. But it’s different that he’s here now in person, and it’s a big deal to me,” Mary said in the July 31 episode. “Just today, it’s my first time [having] me and Brandan in the same bed, first time kissing Brandan, all our first times.”
Perhaps the biggest challenge in Brandan and Mary’s relationship is their trust issues. Mary has admitted to feeling jealous many times when Brandan was around other women. Additionally, during the August 5 episode, Brandan met Mary’s friends, who are all men, and admitted he felt jealous of them. Her friends told Brandan that Mary unplugged her Wi-Fi and turned off her phone to hang out with them without Brandan knowing, which made Brandan upset and led to an argument. However, Mary apologized, and the two were able to work it out. Brandan then said that he and Mary could hang out with her friends as a group in the future.
The couple ran into another issue after Mary decided she wanted to bring Brandan to church and hoped he would convert to Catholicism. While religion was not important to Brandan, Mary said it was important if he wanted to marry her.
During the church service, Mary urged Brandan to only look at the priest and at none of the girls in the building.
“I’m just like not understanding what’s going on and I’m trying to fill in the boredness, but if I even turn my head, she doesn’t like it,” Brandan explained during the August 21 episode. “Here we are again, with Mary getting insecure and jealous even though we talked a lot about how that won’t happen anymore.”
After attending mass, Brandan confronted Mary about her jealousy issues. “It’s about you trust me, not having this lack of faith in each other,” the U.S. native told his girlfriend. “I spent almost two-and-a-half years talking to you on the phone, never leaving you for anyone else, and then finally coming here in person. You still feel that I’m the kind of guy that would leave you?”
The couple’s arguing only got worse as their relationship progressed. During the October 9 episode, Mary and Brandan got into a heated fight over how loud he set the volume while watching TV.
“He’s always shouting, always slamming the door,” she explained in a confessional. “This morning, we got in a huge fight when he’s watching TV with that volume up to 100. I told him to lower the volume, but he won’t listen.”
A flashback scene showed Brandan asking Mary if they could talk, though she was focused on the TV volume. “Besides the f–king TV, can you talk with me?” he fired back.
“He’s telling me you know, the bad words like you know, ‘F–k you, Mary.’ He’s like that and everybody can hear [it],” Mary complained about his behavior. “After that he just walk away and won’t come back to the house and he’s always doing that.”
Brandan eventually left the house, while a producer later found him sleeping on a stone bench and asked him to explain what happened with Mary.
“Just had a really bad fight with Mary,” he said. “Things got heated. I just felt like I really had to just get out of the house and escape that environment. I thought we were gonna get married, and have a family and all this stuff.”
Brandan continued, “But instead of being happy, me and Mary are fighting more and more. I don’t know what to say, what to do. For the most part, I just walk away because that’s how I grew up and sometimes I’ll go to the town square and I’ll just sleep on a stone bench.”
Adding to the tension was the fact that Brandan’s mom, Angela, and Mary didn’t get along at all. Angela arrived in the Philippines during the October 23 episode, and Mary accused her of being a “mean girl.” Then, during the October 30 episode, Mary expressed how “awkward” it had been with Angela around. The couple showed Brandan’s mom their house, and she said it was better than what she expected — which was a “shack.” Brandan asked Mary to make more of an effort with Angela, which made Mary upset because he was taking his mom’s side.
Mary opened up to Angela during the November 13 episode and admitted that while she couldn’t picture her life without Brandan, she also needed reassurance for the future.
“You’re gonna make a great mother. And you will have the ability and potential to be a really great wife,” Angela explained during their heart-to-heart moment as she promised Mary that she would talk to her son. “It’s gonna take some time to get there … You don’t have to do this alone.”
As Brandan and Mary’s wedding day approached, the tension only continued to escalate between the couple as Mary grew frustrated with Brandan and his lack of initiative to handle their financial situation.
Before the wedding, Angela hounded her son to give up the “constant playing” of video games throughout the day and be “more involved” in handling their finances. Brandan agreed he wasn’t doing enough and compromised to step up.
Is 90 Day Fiance’s Mary Pregnant?
Mary surprised Brandan with the news that she was expecting their first child during the September 18 episode of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way. Brandan couldn’t contain his shock, telling Mary, “I don’t know how I’m feeling, I just can’t believe you’re pregnant. I am happy. This is … let me process it.”
Two weeks later, Brandan said during the October 2 episode that he was feeling anxious about the baby and wasn’t sure what kind of father he would be.
Did Brandan and Mary Get Engaged on ‘90 Day Fiance’?
Brandan and Mary reached another milestone during the October 2 episode: an engagement! Despite the couple having financial issues as their newly opened store struggled to make a profit, Brandan proposed to Mary, admitting it probably wasn’t the best time to do so. He also said he didn’t put much thought into it. Mary agreed it wasn’t a good time and feared they weren’t mature enough to get married, but she accepted his proposal anyway.
“I know that we’re not ready yet because we’re still struggling and I’m still really stressing so bad,” she said in a confessional. “So I’m just saying yes because I need to and I don’t want him to be hurt or anything, so I just say yes.”
Are 90 Day Fiance’s Brandan and Mary Still Together?
While Brandan and Mary don’t have their family’s support when it comes to the relationship, In Touch exclusively confirmed in July 2023 that the pair got married!
Brandan’s mom shared several of the 90 Day Fiancé alum’s photos of the couple’s wedding reception via social media on April 28. In the snaps, the Philippines native wore a white wedding gown and tiara, while her long distance love wore a plum-colored tuxedo. It was mentioned in the comments that TLC cameras were present for the ceremony, so fans may seemingly get to watch the wedding play out on a future episode of the spinoff.
“I made it home!! It’s bittersweet. I miss my son and his family in the Philippines already but glad to be back in my own bed. This trip has put a lot of things into perspective for me and I’m ready to really start living life to the fullest,” Angela captioned her post.
The couple’s wedding played out during the November 13 episode of the spinoff.
Fans will have to tune in to season 5 of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way on TLC and Discovery+ on Monday at 8 p.m. ET to watch how their love story plays out.
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