90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way star Julio considered leaving his life and his mom in the United States to live overseas with girlfriend Kirsten — but did everything go as planned?
How Did ‘90 Day Fiance’ Stars Julio and Kirsten Meet?
Julio is a 27-year-old DJ from New York and crossed paths with Kirsten by chance while randomly scrolling through his explore page on Instagram. Instantly “mesmerized” by the Dutch native’s beauty, they immediately started messaging and spoke for two months before Julio decided to travel to visit her in the Netherlands during the pandemic.
After spending a week together in quarantine, he continued to travel once a month to visit the human resources professional before ultimately deciding to move to Europe.
“Spending time with her and being under the same roof together, I loved it. I got used to the life there,” the DJ told producers during his debut on season 5 of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way in July 2023. “I love Kirsten’s personality. I like how funny she is. She makes me feel like I’m not alone. So I applied for residency there.”
Why Did 90 Day Fiance’s Julio Hide His Relationship With Kirsten From His Family?
Julio is a self-proclaimed “momma’s boy” and before he moves his life overseas permanently, Kirsten is traveling to New York to meet his mom for the first time. However, Julio’s mom, Ana, was unaware of his intended move until two weeks prior to the Netherlands native arrival.
“We’ve been together our whole lives,” the matriarch tearfully told producers in another scene. “We’ve never been apart. Him moving to another country … oh my God. Just imagine, I won’t see him every day. It wouldn’t be the way I want it to be.”
During the July 24 episode, Julio and Kirsten spent the day in New York City before they traveled to Long Island to meet his family. Kirsten grew concerned when she learned that Julio only told his mother about their relationship three weeks earlier, while she also wasn’t thrilled that Ana didn’t know about his plans to move.
90 Day Fiance’s Julio Changed His Mind About Moving to the Netherlands
The drama continued during the August 7 episode when Julio suggested Kirsten move to the United States for two months despite their original plan for him to move to the Netherlands.
“I’ve always wanted to move out of the states and live in another country,” he explained in a confessional interview. “I feel like this is not going to be my forever home. But having Kirsten here and knowing that the move is so soon, and having everyone’s reaction here, is making me feel unsure about my decision to move.”
Julio added that he felt like he would be “giving up a lot” by moving and wondered if “there’s a world where we can spend time in both places.” He continued, “It’s hard because I’ve already committed to it. I feel like the train has left the station and I’m just going.”
Kirsten made it clear she wasn’t thrilled with his suggestion and wondered if he wanted to be with her at all.
“Our plan was always that Julio comes to move with me to the Netherlands and now suddenly he doesn’t sound confident about it anymore,” she said in a confessional. “Julio makes it seem like he’s that adventurous guy that travels all over the world. But now he’s coming up with silly excuses like food that he doesn’t want to leave the United States.”
Julio even tried to convince Kirsten to live in the U.S. for a few months, but she wasn’t having it. While driving Kirsten to the airport as her visit came to an end in the August 14 episode, Julio admitted the trip didn’t go as he hoped because of their arguments. The couple also admitted they had several issues to work through before Julio’s move in three months.
“Seeing [Kirsten] in my world opened my eyes some more and highlighted some differences we had,” Julio admitted as Kirsten headed home to the Netherlands.
90 Day Fiance’s Julio Postpones His Netherlands Move With Kirsten
During the August 21, 2023, episode, Kirsten had already returned to the Netherlands. She met up with a friend to discuss the issues in her relationship with Julio and she revealed that he told her he wouldn’t be able to make the move to the Netherlands for another six months. Kirsten said she wasn’t sure if she’d be willing to “wait” for Julio “forever.”
The couple was forced to discuss their future when Julio admitted he wasn’t ready to move to the Netherlands during the September 4 episode. While he said he eventually wanted to relocate, Kirsten admitted she wasn’t willing to wait another year and asked for a timeline. However, he refused and suggested they split.
“I am shocked by Julio’s whole attitude,” Kirsten said in a confessional. “Julio is just totally giving up on this relationship. It’s like he doesn’t care at all.”
Kirsten broke down in tears during the conversation, while Julio remained calm and seemed unbothered. “He’s acting like a real piece of s–t,” she said about his reaction. “I’m really hurt because I don’t know if Julio ever had real intentions to spend the rest of his life with me. I feel like, did he even care about me? I’m not sure anymore.”
Meanwhile, Julio said that he and Kirsten had problems leading up to their split. “It’s not a good feeling that I broke someone’s heart. I feel like an asshole,” he said. “I still love Kirsten, but I think that we have to really assess the situation and really look at things for what they are. I think me and Kirsten were living in a fantasy world for a lot of our relationship. You know, the last couple of months have been difficult. If things were going better with me and Kirsten, we would have been able to make it work.”
Are 90 Day Fiance’s Julio and Kirsten Still Together?
Before their split played out on the show, fans speculated that they called it quits. According to her private Instagram account, Kirsten is currently in South Africa.
Meanwhile, Julio was tagged in a photo shared by 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way costar Daniele Gates. The snapshot was captioned it “Vecinos,” which translates to “neighbors” in Spanish. The reality stars, who are both originally from Long Island, tagged the photo’s location as Bay Shore, New York.
Fans will have to tune in to season 5 of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way on TLC and Discovery+ on Monday at 8 p.m. ET to find out how their international love story plays out.
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