90 Day Fiancé viewers were introduced to newly widowed Louisiana native, Amanda Wilhelm, and her romance with overseas Romanian actor, Razvan Ciocoi — but are they still together following their first in person meeting?
How Did ‘90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days’ Stars Amanda and Razvan Meet?
Amanda is a 31-year-old mother of two, who lost her husband of eight years, Jason Wilhelm, to ampullary cancer in 2022.
After a sudden diagnosis, the TLC personality sadly lost her partner only 10 days later. “The cancer was throughout his body. And the doctor said, best case scenario would be for him to live three months with chemotherapy,” she tearfully revealed to producers during her debut on the June 4 episode. “I was looking at him and kind of seeing … his life left his eyes and he was gone.”
Following his passing, the newly-widowed mom began using social media as “an escape” and crossed paths with Razvan by chance online.
“One night, my friend was doing a live stream challenge on TikTok. My friend kept winning and the guy who lost was being so silly,” Amanda told producers in a private confessional. “And I was like, oh, he’s cute.”
After Amanda sent Razvan a “rose” on the platform, which she said was worth “less than a dollar,” they began messaging and it quickly sparked into a romance.
“I do feel some guilt being with Razvan so soon after my husband’s death. I know that he could never replace Jason,” she continued in a solo interview. “But we started to form this really deep connection.”
When Did Filming Take Place?
Following the premiere episode, fans had strong opinions about Amanda’s love life, as they felt she moved on to a new relationship too quickly following Jason’s death.
“Ok, so I don’t want to judge, but Amanda says her husband started feeling bad a year ago. Got a diagnosis 8 months later,” one user tweeted. “Died 10 days after. How can she be with her new bf for 4 months? Did she get with him the day after? [sic]”
The season 6 star took to her Instagram Stories to clarify the timeline between the two romances.
“My late husband and I were together for 12 years [and] married eight. He passed away in early 2023 – filming for the show took place end of 2022, early 2023,” she clapped back on June 7. “Also, my children knew Razvan as being my friend only, nothing more.”
Amanda went on to say that her kids were “perfectly well taken care of” during her trip overseas and their routine was “never interrupted.”
“My children are my world, and I would never do anything to cause them any trauma or pain,” she continued in her statement. “I was never looking to replace their father or even gave them the impression I was romantically involved with someone. Lastly, if my children wanted to carry their father’s ashes around with them for five years, I’d let them.”
How Was Amanda’s Trip to Romania?
Fans received a first look at Amanda’s trip to Romania — and how her kids reacted to it — in the June 18, 2023, episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days. Amanda experienced uncertainty right off the bat. She found herself missing her kids and felt distracted, unable to focus on Razvan. The situation became even more uncomfortable when Amanda’s son, Jr., called and asked to speak to Razvan, where he unexpectedly said, “My Dada died.”
Amanda began to question whether she should leave Romania early.
“It’s hard to be in the moment and enjoy things because I am a little bit distracted. I feel guilty for leaving my kids. But, I need to see if this is the right guy to bring into my kids’ life, to, you know, have a future with,” she said. “But what’s so hard is Razvan doesn’t fully understand them losing their dad, they still have all these feelings and I don’t know, there’s no guidebook to get you through this, you just have to do your best. … I don’t want them to be hurt again.”
Later, Amanda turned down a key to Razvan’s apartment, revealing that she didn’t know if she would be coming back to Romania. Razvan then surprised Amanda with the news that he would be coming to Louisiana for a tourist Visa interview. Amanda wasn’t thrilled, revealing that she thought it might be too soon for him to visit. Razvan felt hurt and frustrated by this because he thought Amanda wasn’t trying hard enough to help her kids accept their relationship.
“I know the kids come first,” he said. “But I feel like she’s not even trying to make things so that the kids understand, ‘Look, Mama meet this guy,’ she cares about me, like, I don’t know. It makes me feel sad.”
During the June 25 episode, Amanda and Razvan faced more conflict when she refused to appear in his new music video. Due to her decision, Razvan said he would have to pretend to be in a romantic relationship with another woman in the clip and noted they might even kiss on camera.
The comment rubbed Amanda the wrong way because she previously admitted she didn’t want Razvan kissing anyone else, even if it was for work.
Razvan’s video producer also stated he was nervous for the “relatively fresh” relationship and said the content of the video might have a negative impact on their bond.
“Amanda is jealous,” Razvan told his colleague. “But we’ll see. It’s a test for her.”
Amanda later admitted she didn’t appreciate her name being brought up in the conversation. “I find it really rude that Razvan is talking to this guy, obviously about me because I hear my name,” she said. “It makes me uncomfortable a little bit because I don’t know what he’s saying.”
What Have 90 Day Fiance’s Amanda and Razvan Said About Their Sex Life?
Amanda and Razvan struggled to see eye to eye when it comes to their sex life during the July 23 episode. After Razvan tried to get intimate, Amanda explained her hesitations in a confessional.
“I think that Razvan is hoping that by us having sex, it’ll help us connect more emotionally,” she said. “I get it, but I’m not comfortable having sex with Razvan yet, especially coming from a marriage that I was in for so long and losing my husband.”
After noting it was “scary” for her to have sex with anyone other than her late husband, the model told producers that he expected “to make love non-stop and to go out and have fun.”
“I understand that Amanda, she’s trying to be careful for her and for the kids,” he continued. “But I wish for her just to be more open with us.”
Do 90 Day Fiance’s Amanda and Razvan Want to Have Children?
Later during the July 23 episode, a salesperson asked Amanda if she would move to Bucharest to live with Razvan. She confidently said she wouldn’t move because she has “kids and I don’t want them to live in the city.”
“We can make three or four more [children],” Razvan said, though Amanda was sure if he was “being serious” and said she wanted “none.”
“I hope that he’s joking,” she said in a confessional. “When Razvan and I were first getting to know one another, I had asked him if he saw himself having children in the future and he told me no, that it didn’t matter to him.”
What Do ‘90 Day Fiance’ Star Razvan’s Friends Think About Amanda?
The couple continued to face issues during the August 6 episode when Amanda learned Razvan has always dreamed about moving to the United States. The confession made her wonder if he was using her to obtain his visa.
Later on, Razvan’s friend Diana expressed her concerns about the relationship. “If I start a relationship, I want peace, not to fight. You love him [Razvan] or you’re just attached to him?” she asked.
Amanda insisted she was “in love” with Razvan, though Diana said they have a “toxic relationship.”
“I don’t think our relationship is toxic,” Amanda insisted. “I think we love each other very much.”
During a confessional, Amanda admitted it was “difficult to hear Diana call [the] relationship toxic.” She continued, “I don’t know if Diana has any ulterior motives, if she, like, has a crush on Razvan or … I don’t know. Maybe that’s the reason she’s so critical about our relationship.”
Diana insisted she was being “good friend” and told Amanda that Razvan has “suffered a lot in the past,” explaining that she didn’t want him to play with her feelings.
“I think this is not love. I think this is just a form of attach[ment],” Diana said in a confessional. “I think it’s impossible to love a person in a short time. And I don’t think this will be a healthy relationship. And I think it’s not working.”
Amanda and Razvan Clashed Over Their Future
While it was difficult for Amanda to hear Razvan’s friend Diana call their relationship “toxic,” the single mom revealed during the August 13 episode that the pair finally had sex.
“I just felt it was the right time,” she explained, before touching on Diana’s toxicity comment. “Honestly, it makes me want to be a better partner for Razvan because I love him.”
However, after a date to Dracula’s castle, Razvan, whose tourist visa was recently approved, asked Amanda when she would feel comfortable telling her kids that they were more than friends.
“I will tell my children when I feel like they are ready,” she urged him, not giving him a solid answer. “And it probably will be emotional for them.”
Following their date, Amanda revealed she and Razvan got into a heated argument after she asked him what his plan was once he arrived in the United States.
“He got very defensive. He thought that I was telling him, ‘You need to get a job immediately,’ ‘You need to pay half of the bills immediately,’” she told producers. “I pay all my bills just fine without him, but if he is coming here, I would expect him to have a plan and be able to support himself financially.”
While Razvan felt he could be successful in entertainment, Amanda didn’t want to support him and her kids while he “sat back and chased his dreams.”
As for Razvan, he said that Amanda asked him “who has more money” between them and then compared him to her late husband.
“She told me, ‘Jason will provide her if she wants something,’ Jason will go and give it to her,” he told cameras. “And that makes me feel very hurtful … I can’t win a comparison with Jason because he’s not here.”
Ultimately Amanda felt Razvan didn’t know how to be with someone with “open wounds of losing a husband,” and their relationship hit a standstill.
“I’m looking for a man that will put his pride aside and do anything for his family,” she explained. “I told him, like, when I first met Jason, he was a manager at a restaurant and he like started here, and did what he had to do, to like provide for his family.”
When the couple finally reunited after their fight, Amanda admitted to Razvan she was “scared to be in a relationship.”
“It’s scary for me to move on and think of having a life with someone else. So maybe that’s why I compare you to Jason because I have so many emotions,” Amanda tearfully explained during the August 27 episode. “When you spend that much of your life with a person, and then thinking of starting a new life with someone else, is scary and something, you didn’t think you would be doing.”
Despite Amanda initially saying the previous night she was ready to go home, the pair decided to continue working on their connection as Razvan planned to introduce her to his family in Croatia.
Why Didn’t Razvan’s Parents Like His Ex-Wife?
Upon their arrival, Amanda asked Razvan’s parents why they did not get along with his ex-wife.
“It’s simple. They have no conversation with each other,” Razvan’s father, Avram, responded during the September 3 episode. “She was always pushing her own views and he began to suffer a lot.”
In a private interview, Razvan’s mom confessed that his ex-wife was “bossy and demanding.” His dad also commented on the “energy” between Razvan and Amanda but was “uneasy” about it.
“I get the impression that it isn’t 100 percent positive,” the patriarch continued. Meanwhile, Razvan was also convinced that Amanda didn’t want to be with him.
“I felt like she wanted me to be something else. It reminds me [of] the problems that I have with Amanda,” the fitness model added. “Sometimes when I’m with her, I cannot be 100 percent me, if I’m doing something wrong, we will get into another fight.”
Did 90 Day Fiance’s Amanda and Razvan Get Engaged?
With Amanda’s trip winding down, she questioned whether she would return to the United States as an engaged woman.
“I want to feel like, despite all of our fights, he’s committed to me,” she told producers during the September 10 episode. “I’m scared, like, when I leave that he will say, ‘OK, you know what, our relationship isn’t the best and you know, we just need to like, part ways.”
For his part, Razvan wasn’t convinced about his future with Amanda since their time together had been “70% fights.”
“I’m shocked that Amanda is talking about being engaged. How can you want to be engaged with someone when we only have fights?” he privately told producers. “Only because you want a commitment? I mean the biggest commitment is I didn’t give up until now.”
In a teaser for the September 17 episode, Amanda and Razvan go on a romantic date overlooking the water. “I love you so much,” Razvan is seen telling Amanda in the clip. “But you are also my worst enemy.”
Are 90 Day Fiance’s Amanda and Razvan Still Together?
While the connection between Amanda and Razvan is slowly crumbling on screen, Razvan’s career as a model, singer and social media entertainer often sparked major blowups in their relationship.
“Razvan and I have broken up a few times throughout our relationship, mainly because of his social media content,” Amanda explained to her sister, Amber. “He will flirt, do stripteases. I don’t know, just crazy things.”
At the time of filming, the pair had been together for four months before Amanda opted to go overseas to meet him in person for the first time. While the pair have yet to publicly confirm their ongoing relationship, the pair follow each other on social media, which is a good sign.
However, Amanda seemingly hinted that they’re still together when she left three black heart emojis in the comments section of a post Razvan shared via Instagram on June 20.
As their season is airing, rumors began to swirl that Amanda was dating a man named Cody Alvers when fans noticed that he seemingly referenced her TikTok name, “Red Flag Amanda,” by writing, “Red Flag A…,” in his own TikTok bio next to a red heart emoji. Meanwhile, Amanda had “The Difference” written in her bio, which seemingly referenced his TikTok name, @CodyTheDifference.
However, Cody denied romance rumors when exclusively speaking to In Touch. “We are just friends,” he said in July. “Amanda and I have never dated or even met.”
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