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90 Day Fiance’s SojaBoy Dating History: From Ex-Wife Lisa Hamme to Girlfriends Kimberly, Zara

Usman “SojaBoy” Umar introduced his new love interest, San Diego resident Kimberly Menzies, on season 5 of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days. After becoming Usman’s official girlfriend, the pair went off to continue their love story on the spinoff, 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?

“I had to like jump through hoops to make this man, my boyfriend but guess what … I won,” the San Diego native gushed on the premiere of season 7 in August 2022.

After referring to Kim as his “potential,” the “I Love You” artist decided that he and Kim were well suited for each other for several different reasons and decided to officially make her his girlfriend. One of the reasons Soja Boy decided to move forward in a romantic relationship with Kim is because the mother of one said she is “OK” with him having multiple wives — since the rapper eventually wants children and she cannot biologically have more children.

While Kim initially protested the idea of Usman having more wives, it was the only way Usman’s family would allow him to marry the TLC star.

During a November 2022 episode, Kim received a legal letter from Usman’s family, which stated that Soja Boy must be allowed to take a second wife and have children. The letter also explained that if the couple moves to America, SojaBoy must be allowed to visit his family quarterly. 

Kim found the terms to be a “blessing” and signed the document with the “Zara” rapper. 

She agreed and signed the document with SojaBoy. “I’ve never felt so completely in love with somebody as I do at this moment with Usman,” Kim said. “I just want to go home and drink and sleep now — I’m so tired.”

However, their happiness was short-lived after speaking with a lawyer to discuss their K-1 visa options. While on a video call, the attorney informed the 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Day alums that if the government found out Usman had another wife in another country, it would be grounds to lose his green card. 

Instead of taking another wife, Usman asked Kim if she would be open to adopting his nephew. While she was initially on board with the idea, she had a change of heart when she learned his nephew’s parents weren’t aware of Soja Boy’s plan. 

While the pair began to fight over adoption, Kim also vented her frustrations about Usman not spending enough time with her when she visits him in Nigeria, adding that they “don’t even have sex.” 

“I’m done here,” she responded as she took off her engagement ring and left the conversation.

Kim went on to confirm their split during part one of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After? season 7 tell-all in January 2023. 

Who Is ‘90 Day Fiance’ Star Usman’s Ex-Wife?

Kimberly isn’t the first American woman whom Usman has romanced. The Nigeria native made his TLC debut with his ex-wife, Lisa Robinson (née Hamme), on season 4 of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days in February 2020. 

Usman told In Touch exclusively in December 2020 that he served ex-wife Lisa Robinson (née Hamme) with divorce papers. Since then, she found love with her current husband, Tracey Robinson. Lisa is still considered to be married to Usman in Nigeria, but she told In Touch in May 2021 that it’s not legal in the United States.

His previous romance with Lisa was an obstacle Usman and Kimberly had to work through during their initial meeting in season 5.

“I love Usman, but he doesn’t know if he wants to be in a relationship with an American woman again because of his ex-wife,” Kimberly shared about her long-distance relationship with SojaBoy. “This trip is my chance to prove to him that I am not like his ex-wife and then to see if we can build a future together.”

Despite their 18-year age gap and cultural differences, Kim and Usman said they both had strong feelings for each other and seemed to be a compatible match romantically and even though there was pushback from Usman’s friends and manager, who suggested he should go for a young model instead of someone older than him. 

Scroll through the gallery below to see SojaBoy’s dating history.

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