We see you, Jill Duggar! Though the Duggar girls are known for their modesty, the former Counting On stars took a turn into NSFW territory with her new blog post on Monday, June 3. While writing about how to “love your husband,” Derick Dillard‘s wife assured fans that marriage is about “more than sex” — but, uh, sex is still a pretty big part of things. In the post, the mother-of-two shared some advice she’d been given from an older woman as well as tips and tricks she’d picked up herself along the way, and one of her “ways we can love our husbands” included wearing sexy lingerie.

“The fire in your marriage doesn’t have to die out,” Jill, 28, told fans in the post. “But like a fire, sometimes, and more so during some seasons than others, you need to be intentional, proactive and work hard to keep the fire going.” So how do you keep that fire going? With sexy underwear, of course! Suggesting that her followers online show (presumably so that only they and their husbands will be picturing them in something skimpy), she wrote, “Get new lingerie … as a surprise gift for birthdays, holidays, vacations or whenever!”

Not everyone was into the advice, though. First of all, some fans were more than a little against taking sex tips from a Duggar. Though they sure are good at cranking out babies, they don’t even kiss until marriage, which means they might be a little behind the learning curve when it comes to everything else. Others, frankly, found the advice demeaning as a whole. “Oh, yes, please tell me more about how to be sexy in my knickers and bonnet,” snarked one commenter on Instagram.

Another broke things down even further: “My husband finds me sexy in my sweats or yoga pants. No need for me to dress up to make him attracted to me. That’s real attraction and not something that is fake or put on. These ideas are so old fashioned. It’s not ONLY my husbands decision as to when we have sex.” A third agreed with that basic principle, although they had a slightly nicer way of saying it. “Dressing up and sexy-time and conversation and all that is important,” they wrote. “But if you wear yourself out trying to be [the] perfect wife, you won’t enjoy any of it, and then what’s the point?”

We’ll be honest. We’re not sure that we’re going to be following all of Jill’s sex tips as she recommends that wives “guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone” and “[put] on fragrant lotion in front of him.” But it is kind of nice to know that the ladies in the fam know there’s more to sex than making 19 kids. Let’s just hope that their husbands know, too.

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