Opening up. 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days star Stephanie Matto got a lot of backlash from fans because of the way she treated ex-girlfriend Erika Owens and their lack of intimacy. During the season 4 tell-all, she revealed her past as a stripper “changed” her outlook on her sexuality.

“When I was in my early 20s, I moved to Los Angeles and I was broke and I had nobody to turn to, so I did end up dancing for a period of time. It messes you up,” Steph, 29, said. “So after I stopped working there, it definitely changed the way that I am.”

She also addressed the lack of intimacy while slamming rumors claiming she is not really bisexual and only joined the show with the Australia native to gain exposure for her YouTube channel. “It’s really hurtful because I feel like this is a pattern in my life where I date people and I feel like I get attacked for not being a certain way. I begin to feel like there’s something defective about you,” Stephanie added. “I know I’m bisexual. It’s not something I need to prove to anybody.”

The 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days season 4 tell-all, which was filmed via Zoom amid the coronavirus pandemic, was the first time the Yonkers, New York native and Erika, 24, had seen each other face to face in a long time. It seemed like there was still bad blood between the exes after their split, because they constantly argued and fought during their segment.

90 Day Fiance Stephanie and Erika React to Their Dramatic Split
Courtesy Stepanka Matto/Instagram; Courtesy Erika Owens/Instagram

During one heated fight, Stephanie called Erika a “narcissist” who is “very self-centered.” Erika hit back and called out Stephanie for seemingly “claiming victim.”

Stephanie and Erika documented their first in-person meeting on the hit TLC reality TV series after meeting online. While Stephanie’s visit with Erika started off on the right foot, things quickly went downhill for the couple, and they fought over Stephanie’s trust issues, Erika’s close friendships with former lovers and whether Stephanie would come out to her mother and introduce Erika as her girlfriend. The topic of Stephanie’s coming out led to a blowout fight between the ladies and ultimately led to their split.

Now, neither of them seem hopeful that they would be able to become friends again in the future. “Absolutely not,” Erika said. Stephanie added, “I think because there’s so much hurt and emotion still that’s raw and that we’re dealing with, the very best case scenario is that we can be friends from afar. So support each other from a distance. That’s it. That’s the most I can hope for.”

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