Making it official? 90 Day Fiancé stars Usman “SojaBoy” Umar and Kimberly Menzies were one of the most captivating couples on season 5 of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days and the pair have since graduated to appear on the franchise spinoff, 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?. With a nearly two-decade age gap and long-distance being factors in their relationship, fans are divided over if they are still going strong in 2023. Keep reading to find out the latest details on if Usman and Kimberly are still together.  

Is ‘90 Day Fiance’ Stars Usman and Kim’s Relationship Real?

SojaBoy professed his love for Kimberly before their season of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days aired on TV, telling Entertainment Tonight in December 2021 that he adored her with “all my bones [and] my heart.”

The Bares All alum said that Kimberly initially had been a big fan of his and reached out to him personally via direct messages before they decided to meet face to face. He also discussed dating older women, telling the publication that his type is more correlated to “someone who is going to give me peace.” 

“Right now, I am in love,” he continued. “I love Kimberly, I can say that any way in the world. I love her. I’m not shy. I’m not ashamed. I am proud to say that I love her. I love her for real.”

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Does SojaBoy’s Mom Approve of Kim?

During season 7 of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, which debuted in August 2022, SojaBoy decided that he wanted to move forward with introducing Kim to his mother, Fadimatu. Before the formal introduction, SojaBoy visited his mom one on one so he could tell her about Kim in private. The first question that Fadimatu asked her son is how old was his new lady love. Fadimatu was not pleased when she learned Kim was 50 years old.

“God, really?” Fadimatu said. “As far as a request for marriage, I assure you that I won’t accept it.”

“I just want you to get married so that you will stop bringing such women from a far away world. And marry a fertile girl who is of tender age. I have a variety of girls among our people,” SojaBoy’s mom continued. “They are of different varieties. I cannot continue to sit by and watch you make mistakes. We want to celebrate in our way, so that one day we will be able to see your children.”

During a November 2022 episode, Kim learned that SojaBoy’s family finally accepted her to be his first wife.

She received a legal letter from his family, which stated SojaBoy must be allowed to take a second wife and have children with her. The letter also explained that if the couple moves to America, SojaBoy must be allowed to visit his family quarterly.

“It just hit me,” Kim said through tears in a confessional after reading the letter. “This is the blessing. This is huge.”

She agreed to the terms and signed the document with SojaBoy. “I’ve never felt so completely in love with somebody as I do at this moment with Usman,” Kim said. “I just want to go home and drink and sleep now — I’m so tired.”

SojaBoy’s mother later explained why she had a change of heart and now is accepting of Kim’s relationship with her son. “I have given up for now,” she said. “Since she has pleaded several times, I see that she has a good attitude. But I implore that he should visit home every three months to marry another girl here so that I may have grandchildren.”

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How Did Kim Feel About Potentially Being In a Polygamous Relationship?

Kim and Usman previously got into a heated argument when he asked if she would allow him to have more wives.

While visiting Nigeria, Kim asked Usman’s friend KB about his polygamous lifestyle during a September 2022 episode. After KB explained that he has two wives and nine children, Usman chimed in, “I have the potential to have nine [kids], you know. I don’t want to take [a] long time so why not have two more wives plus you four?”

Kim made it clear that she wasn’t a fan of the idea. “No, there’s no way … I can barely deal with one,” she replied. “I don’t give a damn.”

Usman wasn’t ready to give up on the idea and said, “If I have four wives plus you — like, I have three more. If this one gives twins, first birth, then the second wife give another maybe one or two. Before you know it, in just two, three years I can have like, 10 and we [are] done.”

“That is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Look, we said one if I was cool with one,” Kim responded. “Now we are talking about three or four, no.”

Usman expressed his shock over Kim’s response in a confessional. “Kimberly cursing and being rude, giving me that kind of attitude and behavior, is unacceptable to any Nigerian man,” he said. “She’s being so mad. I started to doubt if Kimberly is actually okay with this idea of second wife. Maybe she was just saying that just to make me happy. I know it seems, in reality, she don’t think she can take it.”

As the couple continued to fight, Kim eventually had enough and stormed away as she splashed her milkshake at Usman.

They have since resolved the argument and have moved on, with Kim agreeing that SojaBoy can have another wife.

However, the couple was dropped another bombshell during a November 2022 episode. While on a video call with a lawyer to discuss their K-1 visa options, the 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days alums learned that if the United States government found out that he had another wife in another country, it would be grounds for him to lose his green card.

Are SojaBoy and Kim Engaged?

Their relationship reached a new level when they got engaged after Kim proposed during a November 2022 episode. However, their happiness was short-lived.

After Kim and SojaBoy argued about him taking another bride, the couple faced another obstacle during a December 2022 episode, which documented Kim learning that SojaBoy wanted to adopt his nephew. While she was initially on board with the idea, she had a change of heart when she learned that the parents weren’t aware of SojaBoy’s plan.

The couple began to fight over the adoption before Kim vented about her frustrations over SojaBoy not spending enough time with her when she visits him in Nigeria, adding that they “don’t even have sex.”

SojaBoy refused to apologize for his behavior and replied, “If you don’t understand why you are here, then you can pack your things and go back [to America].”

“I’m done here,” she responded as she took off her engagement ring and left the conversation.

Are 90 Day Fiance’s Usman and Kimberly Still Together?

While the pair’s romantic connection didn’t look promising following their return on season 7 of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Kimberly confirmed their split during the January 2023 tell-all

“Done and over,” the San Diego native told host Shaun Robinson. “But we’re friends. But we’re cool.” While she joked that she was open to being “friends with benefits” with Usman, she would respect when Usman marries as she was the one who “let him go.”

Although the couple claimed they were done for good during the special, which was filmed in September 2022, the 90 Day Fiancé alums do appear to be on good terms and have even sparked reconciliation rumors. 

“It’s the connection we can’t explain. No fake love here,” Kimberly captioned a December 2022 photo of the exes. In another post uploaded that month, Usman sparked buzz that the pair seemingly got back together after commenting, “My Queen and My Son” under a photo of Kim and her son, Jamal Menzies.

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