He made a judgment call. Ron Perlman filed for divorce from his wife of almost four decades, Opal Stone Perlman, on November 5, and an insider exclusively told In Touch he did so in deference to her. “Ron, out of respect to Opal, the mother of his two kids, decided it was time,” the source said. “There wasn’t any big drama or showdown.”

But what about the Allison Dunbar factor? Ron, 69, was seen out and about getting food with the actress at Soho Warehouse on November 3, sparking romance rumors between the duo before the Sons of Anarchy actor had officially filed to end his marriage. The source told In Touch, “Opal was well aware of his relationship with Allison. Ron and Opal have a very long history, they respect each other, they’re parents to two adult children, but they had moved on a long time ago.”

Ron and Allison “definitely” appeared to be “like an item” during their outing together, an eyewitness told In Touch at the time. They seemed to be very comfortable with each other and were “very touchy-feely.” The insider noted that Ron “wasn’t wearing a wedding ring” and said they “didn’t see his wife” during the lunch date. Although a separate source told In Touch Opal and Ron had “what seems like an open relationship,” the actor officially began divorce proceedings just two days later.

Ron Perlman Filed for Divorce Respect For His Wife Opal
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“Everyone thought Ron and his wife lived very separate lives,” the second insider said. “I will say this: The blonde actress he’s with now isn’t his usual type. He’d flirt on the set with extras like he was a single man. His wife’s name never came up.”

Ron seems to be more respectful of the relationship they shared now that their marriage is ending. The couple has been married for 38 years — since they were wed on Valentine’s Day in 1981. He and Opal share two children together — Blake and Brandon — who are both adults.

After a long marriage, Ron may not be looking to start something serious all over again with Allison. He “doesn’t want to rock the boat” by jumping into something, a source told In Touch on November 8. “Now that Ron has finally filed for divorce from his wife, Opal, after a whopping 35 years, his girlfriend Allison is itching for a little more security,” the insider exclusively revealed. “Ron’s friends say he’s happy the way things are. Ron and Allison have a good thing going, but he doesn’t want to lose her either. So stay tuned, under these new circumstances, she wants more and he’s fine with the way things are, this romance is still developing.”

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