Even though Jessica Simpson was in an on-and-off relationship with John Mayer for years, the singer doesn’t regret her time with the handsome hunk “because it made me love [husband], Eric Johnson, even more,” the 39-year-old tells Glamour magazine in an interview published on Tuesday, February 4. “It made me a better wife, it made me a better lover, it made me a better partner. Yes, it was a relationship that was a yo-yo; it was always back and forth. To feel wanted and then to be shut out, and to feel wanted, to be completely shut out.”

The blonde beauty — who shares Maxwell, 7, Ace, 6, and Birdie, 10 months, with her husband, 40 — says being with John, 42, taught her when to cut ties with someone for good. “I mean, my advice is to pick up on those signs,” she advises. “If there have been three breakups, stop it there. There can’t be 9 to 10 because that’s immature. That’s not love. If you’re actually in love, you’re not going to give it up.”

Jessica Simpson Wearing a Gray Dress With John Mayer
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During an interview with Hoda Kotb on the Today show — which aired on February 4 — Jessica revealed she “went back” to the “Daughters” crooner “close to nine times.” She added, “We were great at intimacy. We were great at loving each other. That was easy, but the relationship was very complex.”

However, the mom of three revealed the moment she knew when things weren’t going to work out with the Grammy winner. “The February interview in Playboy sealed it,” she writes in her memoir, Open Book, which was obtained early by Radar Online. “He talked about me by name in the most degrading terms. You can look it up because I had to be asked about those quotes in every interview I did for about two or three years,” referring to when he called her his “sexual napalm” back in the day.

Now, Jessica seems to be in a great place these days, and she finally has found everlasting love. “He wants to know everything about you — the good and the bad,” she reveals to Glamour about Eric. “Find somebody like that. I mean, it took divorce and a lot of really long, intense relationships to get there, but I did.”

Jessica Simpson Wearing a Green Dress With Eric Johnson
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