Well, this is certainly … ambitious. Jill Duggar’s husband, Derick Dillard, wrote an entire blog post on “Hot Love: How to Love Your Wife Like You Mean It,” and boy, is it a doozy. The Counting On alum had all sorts of fun nuggets of wisdom for married couples in the post, but one in particular totally shocked his wife’s followers on Instagram.

Derick, 30, included “a list of ways we can be intentional to love our wives like we mean it,” and the very first bullet point on that list was: “Have lots of good sex!” (Cue the cringe.) “You both need this time together regularly (5-6 times (or more) a week is a good start),” the former reality TV star wrote. “Guys, you need to keep yourself ‘joyfully available’ for your wife, because only you can fulfill certain desires she might have … And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate.”

Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard On Hike
Courtesy of Derick Dillard/Instagram

Jill, 28, shared a link to the blog post on her Instagram, and fans had a lot to say about that particular piece of marital advice. “FIVE TO SIX TIMES A WEEK? And you have to pretend you’re up for it any time he is?!” one person wrote. Another fan added, “5 or 6 times a week?! 😂Ain’t nobody got time for that.” Someone else said, “Sex 5 to 6 times a week at least!? My sex drive couldn’t keep up with that.”

However, at least one fan defended Derick’s first marriage tip on the list. “Five to six times (to start) a week is great advice,” they wrote. “It’s nothing to roll your eyes at.”

Derick’s post was actually in response to a similar piece of writing his wife did in June. Under a section titled, “Here are some ways we can love our husbands” on the Dillard Family Blog, Jill suggested, “Have sex often! You both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start. lol). And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate. Let your spouse know that you’re always available.”

Apparently, Jill is not as optimistic about how often couples should be “joyfully available” to one another. Or maybe she and Derick have upped their goals?! Enjoy the mental image, Counting On haters!

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