When Amy Duggar made a guest appearance on Reality Life with Kate Casey, a podcast about reality shows and their stars, she opened up about her singing career, settling down, and her life in general. But when it came to her Duggar family, the one-time 19 Kids and Counting star did her best to stay mum. "I’m honestly not necessarily comfortable answering these question about them," she told comedian and author Kate Casey. "They live a private life." Still, during the course of the conversation, she did let a few things about the Duggars slip.
She didn't chase her singing career because she didn't want to be the rebel Duggar cousin.
Serious fans may remember her 2014 TLC special, When A Duggar Leaves Home, was about her journey into the country music world and trying to make a name for herself. Well, a non-Duggar cousin name for herself, at least. Though the star has a decent singing voice, and even released a music video with TLC, she didn't exactly make it big. Apparently, though, that was by her own choice.
"I did go to Nashville," Amy said. "I met with several huge, huge labels… [and] I was offered contracts, these huge labels to sign me, and it wasn’t on the show." She turned them down, though — because she wanted to be Amy Duggar, not the crazy Duggar cousin. "They wanted to make me into not just the cousin, but the bad, sexy edgy cousin kind of thing," she shared. "Like the Britney Spears of the Duggar family."
Jim Bob wasn't raised as religious as he is now.
When Kate asked about how Amy's mom, Deanna Duggar, and her uncle, Jim Bob Duggar, were raised, she called them just a normal family. But as we all know, the Duggars are far from what most people consider normal these days. After all, the fact that it's news-worthy that some of the older daughters have started wearing pants speaks for itself. But growing up, though he was raised in a religious household, they didn't face rules as strict as those in Michelle and Jim Bob's home. "They went to church, they were just a normal family," the Duggar cousin said. How he is now, she agreed, is different. "The way they decide to raise their family and their kids, you know, that’s religious, their way of living. And I try to respect it."
There are certain things she knows she can't talk about with her cousins.
Growing up, she remembers playing with all the other Duggar kids plenty. But there were always rules that they had to live by and she didn't — especially when it came to what they were allowed to watch and listen to. Even now that she and her older cousins are all grown up, things aren't that different. "I know what I can talk [to them] about and I know what I can’t, and I don’t push those boundaries," she explained. "For example, I don’t talk to them about Hollywood movies. You know, I don’t talk to them about the new stuff on the radio, the new songs." If she wants to make a pop culture reference, she's got to throw it all the way back to the '50s. "I love I Love Lucy, so we joke around about [that] a lot. I try to find common ground with them that, you know, allows me to be in their life." Still, sometimes it can be hard to find things to talk about. "I wouldn’t say [our conversations are] surface-level, but it is more [about the] family dynamic… the way we talk."
She always knew her cousins would end up being famous.
That whole TV show thing? Yeah, that was apparently nothing new for the Duggars when they landed their own TLC series about 10 years ago. Apparently, they were used to being on camera and on the record. And though some of the older Duggar kids were in their mid and late teens when 19 Kids started, they all grew up in the spotlight. "They’ve always kind of had media attention, even if it was local," Amy said. "Even in Arkansas, they were in the newspapers, they were everywhere like that… It was almost like [it was] bound to happen eventually."
There's no hope for a Duggar to go to college.
Though some of the Duggar in-laws have gone to college — like Derick Dillard, who didn't just go but was legit the school mascot — none of the actual kids got a degree past high school. And you won't see any of them heading away for school in the future, either. Though Amy did go to college, she revealed it's just not in the cards for her cousins. "College is a good experience and you learn a lot about yourself… and where you wanna go in life… but [the Duggars] pursue life in a different way, and it’s the only way that they know." In other words: never gonna happen.
She ended up on the show because she doesn't really support that whole chaperoning thing.
While visiting Grandma Duggar, who Amy is tight with, she stumbled upon the filming crew in the house. And when they were trying to find a chaperone for Josh Duggar's date with then-Anna Keller, she literally laughed out loud. "[A producer] saw me covering my mouth… so he came up to me, and he goes, ‘Who are you?’ and I was like, ‘I’m Amy, I’m the cousin. I’m sorry, I wasn’t trying to laugh,’ and he was like, ‘No, that kind of brings a new element to the show…’" When he asked her if he would chaperone for Josh and Anna, she didn't really seem to support the concept. "He was like, ‘Well, do you want to be the chaperone?’ and I was like, ‘Well, you probably wouldn’t like that… I’d probably just let them kind of do whatever they wanted to do.’" She got roped in from there — and the rest is history.
No, she doesn't know why all the girls speak in soft voices, either.
You know how Michelle's slipped into that permanent soft mom-voice, even though she never used to sound like that? The Duggar daughters have fallen into the same trap over the years — and Amy thinks it's just as weird as everyone else. "I don’t really know why they all talk like that, I just know that they’re very soft-spoken," she said. "Sometimes when I go over there, I’m like, ‘Hey!’ and I’m like, do I sound like a man?" And though Michelle herself has admitted to struggling with anger issues, the Duggar cousin has never heard her speak above that soft tone. "I’ve never heard my aunt yell. Never in her life." Creepy.