Awkward. Tori Roloff shared a post on Instagram about her parenting philosophy on Instagram but deleted it seemingly after she received a ton of backlash for the message. “If you raise your kids, you get to spoil your grandkids,” the post began. “If you spoil your kids you’ll end up raising your grandkids.”

Tori, 28, continued in a comment, “Just a thought. I really think my generation has made it more important to be their kids’ best friend and not help guide and support their kids with boundaries and structure. I know we’re all doing the best we can but disciplining kiddos is essential to becoming a good citizen, not a taboo. Spoil with love.”

Matt RoloffZach Roloff’s dad and Tori’s father-in-law — commented on the post and said, “Thank goodness you came around and saved the day! LOL.” But not everyone had the same humorous reaction to the Little People, Big World star’s post.

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“I don’t really think that’s a very fair statement to make … ” one person replied. Another wrote, “You haven’t had enough life experience yet to be able to say what circumstances could lead a parent to have to raise a grandchild. Be careful not to judge too harshly unless you have walked a mile in their shoes … God bless any grandparent who steps up and puts their retirement plans on hold in order to provide a safe and stable home when the parents are unable to. Raising grandchildren does not happen because of spoiling your children. It’s so much more complex than that. If your children someday grow through adulthood unscathed consider it a blessing. It doesn’t always end up that way.”

Tori and Zach, 29, are parents to Jackson Roloff, and they’re awaiting the arrival of a baby girl. While they seem to be good parents and to be doing a great job with their son so far, we can see why people didn’t love Tori’s message and warned her that things happen. The post has since been deleted, so perhaps she decided her followers were correct in their criticism. Who knows?

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