If you follow the Duggars, watch their show Counting On, or participate online in discussion forums and blogs, you probably have some pretty strong opinions and deep confessions about the big reality TV family. In fact, the online fandom surrounding the Duggars has become almost as eventful as the actual family itself. Places like Free Jinger and Duggars Without Pity provide a place for fans to spill what they’re really thinking, including their deepest thoughts about the family. Because let’s face it, everyone has an opinion on the Duggars.

Regardless if you love them or hate them, the famous 21-member family has been the center of several controversies over the past few years that has made the public more obsessed with them than ever. And now that all the older kids are adults who are marrying and having children of their own, the Duggar bubble continues to expand as new characters (Ben Seewald! Kendra Caldwell! Derick Dillard!) are added into the mix.

However, probably one of our favorite fan hangouts is Duggar and Bates Confessions, a Tumblr collection of anonymous comments submitted by fellow Duggar aficionados. Once you start reading the blog, you’ll realize you spent four hours reading 20 pages of hilarious, controversial, and brutally honest thoughts about the Duggars while, at the same time, wondering what went wrong with your life.

But, to save you some time, we crawled through pages of the site (you know, for work) to find 13 of our favorite Duggar confessions submitted by fans. They range from critiques about Michelle (what does she do all day?) to giving major props to Anna for putting up with Josh. Check out the gallery below to see which ones we picked. Remember, these opinions reflect the fans and not our own.