She did what she could to help her ex bond with baby Creed, but now Kailyn Lowry is done attempting to force a connection between Chris Lopez and their son. During an Instagram Q&A on Sunday, August 30, the Teen Mom 2 star revealed she’s pretty much given up on intervening.
After revealing that she “doesn’t remember the last time” she heard from Chris, 26, she shared that she’s no longer even sending him photos or videos of their little boy. “I used to do this,” Kail, 28, wrote when a fan asked her how she resists reaching out with baby updates. “I’ve come a long way. It is EXHAUSTING to try to get someone to want to be involved.”
In terms of advice about how she “let go” of that relationship, she continued, “I got tired. If they wanted to know, they would ask. If they wanted to be there, they would. You will drain yourself trying to make them want to be a father.”
On the August 13 episode of her “Coffee Convos” podcast, the first show she recorded after 1-month-old Creed’s birth, the MTV mom dished about how she changed her mind and reached out to Chris. After previously saying she wouldn’t “make the call” to someone who has not been “helpful, consistent, empathetic or compassionate,” she decided to invite him to be there when their baby was born. She also considered his input when picking out their son’s name, even giving him the last name Lopez.
While speaking exclusively to In Touch, she explained, “I just feel like, if I didn’t allow him to be there in that moment, I would never have the opportunity — neither one of us would have the opportunity to take it back or change it.” She didn’t want to look back at baby No. 4’s birth with any regrets, and she especially didn’t want Creed to grow up and blame his mom for banning his dad from the room. “Nobody can ever say that I didn’t allow him to be there and to try to be a parent,” she said.
Despite that, she shared it’s clear to her now that Chris “won’t commit” to her or their family, and she’s relying on therapy to help her move forward. “Unless you’re in a relationship like this or a toxic situation or with a narcissist or whatever the case may be … It’s hard for anyone to understand,” she said. “Sometimes it’s hard for me to understand, and that’s why I’m still in freakin’ therapy.”
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