Fans are concerned 90 Day Fiancé star Darcey Silva is a victim of domestic violence after she posted a cryptic message on Instagram. The 43-year-old snapped a photo with her daughters, Aspen and Aniko, who were all wearing bracelets that read, “I’m a fighter.” She then captioned the pic, “I’m a fighter! We are all love!”

The reality star, who is said to still be dating Jesse Meester, her 24-year-old boyfriend from Amsterdam, has been open about their tumultuous relationship in the past, even detailing their fights on social media. In August, Darsse — dubbed the couple’s celebrity name by Starcasm — hinted there was trouble in paradise in two separate Facebook posts, which have since been deleted.

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“So over it!!!!!” Darcey wrote. “Now he can f–k all the other b–tches!! Come on ladies!!! He’s a single man and available!!! He’s hot!!! He got lots to choose from I’m sure anyway!” When one use suggested in the comments below to leave her drama off social media, Darcey responded in several separate comments, writing, “My page sorry. Sorry hun. I’m over the drama and ridicule. It’s my life too. But I appreciate your concern. I think I got it handled. They will know about it anyway at some point.”

Jesse went off in his own FB post, writing, “There is no reason to get upset over things you can’t control. Value progressive relationships. Don’t settle for less. Stagnancy is poison.”

Although they’ve also documented happier times on social media — the couple and her daughters were just spotted celebrating her birthday in NYC — some fans have reason to believe she’s being manipulated. “Speaking of domestic abuse, the episode with you and Jesse when he met you in the hotel lobby was personally terrifying to me,” one person commented. “The first relationship I was ever in was very similar in that aspect and eventually turned into a very controlling relationship. It was extremely unhealthy and I felt suffocated all the time. It took me two years to get out of it because every time I broke up with him, he would tell me no you’re not. And he would follow me, stalk me, never let me go out with my friends, etc…. That episode reminded me of my past extremely. Had me shaking!” Of course, all of this is mere speculation.

If you or someone you know is being abused, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233.