What can we say? Sometimes co-parenting with your ex can be more difficult than you thought it would be, and for Teen Mom 2 star Kailyn Lowry, she found that out the hard way. The doting mother exclusively opened up to In Touch Weekly at her Pothead Haircare launch event in NYC, and revealed how she’s learned to successfully co-parent with her three kids’ fathers and how other women can do the same.

“Leave the bitterness behind,” Kailyn said about doing what’s best for the kids. Often couples find it hard to work together even though they don’t love each other anymore. Though it might be difficult to put your feelings to the side, Kailyn believes that it has to be done to create a harmonious living environment for your child.

“To move on from the relationship, you have to keep the ex-relationship separate from the best interest of the child and that’s the hardest part,” she said. Kailyn has since been working on herself to find “self-love,” after she wrote in her new book, A Letter of Love, that she was the problem,” in her past relationships with her three baby daddies. 

“I came to a place where I recognized and acknowledged that I am the common denominator,” Kailyn wrote. “Do you know how hard it is to admit to yourself that you’ve been the problem all along? It hurts like hell to know that all you’ve ever tried to do was to love, and it was to no avail… At times, I’ve been so close to happiness that I felt like I could reach out and touch it, but none of it has been real or enough to withstand the test of time.”

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“I need to learn how to kind of know my worth and what I deserve and what I need to put into a relationship in order for it to be successful,” she explained to In Touch. Kailyn added that “just being the best mom that I can be” is her goal for 2019, and so far, she’s off to a good start!

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