It’s been 44 days (at press time) since Tom Cruise has been photographed with his daughter Suri, last spotted together at Disney World on Aug. 4. And since missing one of the most important days of her life — the first day of school at private NYC school Avenues — many close to Katie Holmes are baffled and worried for the 6-year-old. “He has the means. He could have flown to NYC for one day to see Suri off to school,” a family friend of Katie’s tells the new issue of In Touch, on newsstands now. “It was selfish. He was out having a good time.” Attorneys say the actor has been busy working in London, where he’s been on location shooting a new movie, All You Need Is Kill. Tom — who didn’t fight Katie for custody of Suri after his wife of five years blindsided him with the divorce in June — was spotted drinking beer with a group of pals at the Swan pub just days before his daughter’s first day in school. “He was laughing and talking a lot to everyone like he didn’t have a care in the world,” an onlooker tells the mag. “No one is surprised he wasn’t there for Suri. He has a way of shutting everyone out when he’s focusing on work,” another insider adds.