In a revealing and personal piece for the New York Times’ “Modern Love” column, actress Maria Bello revealed that she has had a long-time girlfriend and addressed her sexuality.
In the piece, the 46-year-old actress—who made a name for herself in roles in Coyote Ugly and ER—reflects on how to address her same-sex relationship when opening up to her 12-year-old son, Jackson.
She writes about how her son asked her if there was any personal information that she was withholding from him and she admitted that there was things—“adult stuff”—that she didn’t disclose… including her love life. Finally, he asked his mother whether she was currently romantic with anyone.
“He was right,” Mario writes in the editorial. “I was with someone romantically and I hadn’t told him. I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son.”
Maria continues the piece by reflecting on her past relationships with men, and expressing her disappointment in those intimate relationships; while reliving those failed relationships, she came across a picture of her and her now-girlfriend, Clare, and wrote about how they were together.
“We had an immediate connection but didn’t think of it as romantic or sexual,” she wrote. “She was one of the most beautiful, charming, brilliant and funny people I had ever met, but it didn’t occur to me, until that soul-searching moment in my garden, that we could perhaps choose to love each other romantically.”
In the piece, titled “Coming Out as a Modern Family,” Maria finally confides in her son about her relationship—and he expresses nothing but support for his mother; leaving all the readers with a powerful lesson in love and tolerance:
“Mom, love is love, whatever you are.”