In Touch recently spoke to DeAnna Pappas, who broke Jason Mesnick’s heart by choosing Jesse Csincsak on ABC’s The Bachelorette last year. Now, happy and the host of the new Lifetime network show Get Married, she’s ready to open up about why she believes romances which begin on TV rarely last and how she’s finally moved on. “I think I really fell in love. I felt it!” DeAnna tells In Touch. “But then after the show’s over with, you are thrown into this brand new relationship with someone that you don’t really know at all.”
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IT: Do you ever talk to Jason?
D: I speak to him all the time, but we’re just friends. That’s it. He’s a strong man and he had to do what he thought was the right thing and I think he did the right thing. He and Molly [Malaney] are taking it day by day. I think they are doing it the right way, really. They are making sure they know what they are doing this time.
IT: Do you think it will last?
D: No one has moved yet, but they are visiting each other. Not jumping the gun. She hasn’t moved yet to Seattle, and he can’t leave Seattle because of [his son] Ty. But, they are spending time together. I hope it works out for him.
IT: Was he surprised that people were so mad at him?
D: I think the angry reaction probably surprised him. I don’t think the majority of people are mad because he didn’t pick Melissa [Rycroft]. People are mad because he dumped Melissa on national TV. But I guess someone always gets dumped, right? People weren’t expecting it, I suppose.
IT: Do you think ABC forced him to do it on air?
D: I really can’t say (laughs).
IT: Is a lot of what we see staged for the cameras?
D: It wasn’t for me.
IT: In hindsight, did you fall in love or did you just think you did on air?
D: Looking back on it, I think I really fell in love. I felt it! But then after [the show’s] over with, you are thrown into this brand new relationship with someone that you don’t really know at all. You’re in love but you don’t really know everything about that person. It’s the weirdest thing in the world. Afterwards, when you spend time alone you start to see their daily habits and personality traits and the way they are in their personal moments that you didn’t get to see while filming, and maybe you realize there’s some things you just can’t live with. Maybe that’s one of the reasons it’s so hard for the relationships to survive.
IT: What’s the hardest part about being in relationship like this?
D: The pressure to make the relationship work. It’s hard enough making any relationship between two people work, but then there are 12 millions of viewers who are emotionally invested, too. And if you break up with someone, you’re breaking all of their hearts. It’s a pretty unique situation.
IT: What did people want to know when you and Jesse split?
D: There was just a lot of confusion from fans and a lot of people who wanted to know why. I didn’t want to talk about it that much though. I think some things should be private.
IT: But, you fell in love in such a public way. Isn’t it dishonest to say now that you want privacy?
D: Yes, I know, but I am comfortable with myself and my family. Falling in love on camera came naturally; I guess I wasn’t really prepared when it ended because I really thought it would work out. When it didn’t, I was a bit confused about having to deal with it in front of everyone.
IT: What advice have you given to Jason and Molly?
D: I’ve told them to just hang in there and try to live a normal life. And to not take it so personally. Some of the viewers will love you and some will hate you. You just have to have a very thick skin and not let it bother you. It’s hard.
IT: Would you do it again?
D: It was a great thing for me, but I have had two shots at this, so I think
probably not. I think next time, I’m just going to wait for God to throw
someone at me. Maybe I’ll have more luck!