Shortly after In Touch reported Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi were inching towards divorce, more details on their turbulent marriage have been revealed.

Ellen’s “controlling behavior” has remained a source of conflict for the couple, among other issues. Insiders close to the couple tell In Touch Ellen insists on “calling all the shots.”

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“She wants to control and micromanage every aspect of Portia’s life, and it’s becoming more and more of a deal-breaker,” the insider says. “If Ellen’s on a cleanse, Portia needs to be on a cleanse. If Ellen quits coffee, Portia needs to quit, too. It’s Ellen’s world and what she says, goes.”

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Portia, who is now struggling to “be her own person,” now feels suffocated by her wife.

“She has never been more miserable in the relationship,” the insider continues. “She feels like a trophy wife, someone who rides horses a couple of times a week and is kept in a gilded cage on Ellen’s lavish estates in LA and Santa Barbara. If it wasn’t for her bit part on Scandal, Portia would have fled by now.”

For more on Ellen and Portia’s marriage, pick up the new issue of In Touch on newsstands now!

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