Though many believe that Jon & Kate Gosselin are trying to make their marriage work, In Touch can exclusively reveal that Jon and Kate have been secretly separated for six months — and are only “together” when they’re in front of the cameras. “They’re married, but it’s for the show,” according to Todd Cruz, a close friend of Jon’s brother and a bartender at 3rd & Spruce — a Reading, Pa., restaurant that Jon used to frequent. “He explained it to us at the bar,” Todd tells In Touch. “He said he was completely miserable and the marriage was pretty much done.” And though Jon has gotten a lot of flak for going out to bars and flirting with college girls, Jon revealed to Todd that it was Kate who ended their marriage. “Jon said then that he confronted Kate six months ago about her relationship with the bodyguard,” Todd shares.

For more exclusive details on Jon & Kate’s split, check out this week’s issue of In Touch, on newsstands now!